3. They seem to be joking when they are actually saying something rude or cruel.
Emotional manipulators may say hurtful things with a sarcastic tone or act like they are joking when they are actually saying something unpleasant or even hurtful. If you find yourself in this situation, you should remember that people who say things like this are often just insecure and have low self-esteem. Then, your answer should be respectful, even if that seems hard to do right now. Try to stand up for your rights and let them know that you deserve respect and dignity just as much as they do. Do this without hurting them.